Loving a married person is a complex and emotionally exhausting situation that can lead to long-term suffering, indecision, and loss of self. Psychologists believe that such love triangles rarely lead to stable and healthy relationships, and they offer specific techniques that help stop emotional dependency and exit such a situation.
Acknowledge the Reality of the Relationship
The first step to getting out of a love triangle is to assess the situation realistically. A married person, while remaining in their marriage, makes their choice, and hopes for "someday" can only feed illusions. Psychologist Radmila Bakirova notes that understanding that you are not the main person in their life helps reduce emotional dependency and begin the process of liberation.
Remove the Illusion of a Unique Connection
There is often a thought that your story is an exception to the rules, and only in your case can love turn a mistress into a legal partner. However, most love triangles follow similar scenarios: secret meetings, limited time, emotional ups and downs, which makes the relationship unstable and painful. Understanding this typicality helps reduce the illusory value of the situation.
Completely Limit Contact
Psychologists emphasize that reducing communication is not just about distancing oneself, but is key to ending emotional dependency. This means minimizing texting, calls, and meetings—otherwise, the connection will continue to fuel your feelings, making it much harder to exit the triangle.
Focus on Yourself
Reorienting attention to your own interests, affairs, social circle, and personal development helps reduce emotional tension. Self-development practices—from hobbies to working on personal goals—contribute to strengthening self-esteem and building an independent life outside the triangle.
Seek Support from Professionals or Loved Ones
A love triangle is often accompanied by codependency—a type of emotional interdependence where a person's self-esteem depends on the attention of another. Working with a psychologist, trusted friends, or family allows you not only to share your experiences but also to receive objective support, which is important for getting out of a difficult situation.
...Love relationships with a married person are not only emotionally tense but also carry the risk of constant doubts, uncertainty, and pain. Psychologists assert that healthy relationships are built on honest and mutual commitments, and the technique of consciously exiting the triangle is suitable not only for ending the current connection but also for strengthening emotional well-being in the future.
