The night from December 31 to January 1 is a moment when both children and adults await real miracles.
Leaving behind negative thoughts and failures, we look to the future with hope, believing that our dreams will come true. Children rely on the help of Santa Claus, while their parents depend on their own strength.
How should one properly prepare for the New Year celebrations? Should a child know that Santa Claus is a myth? And why should adults make wishes? Psychologist Marina Korenkova answered these questions.
Santa Claus really exists!
Marina Yurievna, sooner or later, children stop believing in Santa Claus. Some feel hurt by their parents for the deception, while others try to prove to their friends that the wizard actually exists. When is it best to tell a child the truth about the main New Year character?
Marina Korenkova: - It is important to tell children about the existence of Santa Claus. He lives in Veliky Ustyug — he is a real character with his own residence. Evidence can be found in photographs, books, or videos.
The other question is when a child comes to the realization that the gifts under the tree are brought not by Santa Claus, but by their parents. When should one confess this? It is best to do so when the child starts asking questions, indicating that something is not right. This means it is time to explain that magic is created out of love and the desire to please them. It is not worth intentionally saying that Santa Claus does not exist.
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For the New Year, is it better to give a child a surprise or a gift they dream of?
- It is important to act in a way that does not disappoint children. For example, if a child says they want nothing, parents might choose gifts based on their own taste, which the child may not like.
It is necessary to explain to children that they can ask for a specific gift and be happy when it is fulfilled.
One should not succumb to the child's inflated demands; it is important to discuss family possibilities with them. If they write to Santa Claus about wanting a dog, and the parents understand that this is impossible, they should explain that Santa Claus cannot give living beings, as it is a great responsibility.
How to avoid overspending during the holidays?
- First, you need to determine how much you can spend for the New Year. Write down this amount and make a list of people you want to give gifts to. This will help understand what amount can be expected.
You can make something by hand or buy a small gift in the form of a symbol of the coming year. It is also worth making a list of products for the New Year's table to avoid exceeding the planned expenses.
Formulate Wishes Correctly
Who makes wishes more often — men or women?
- It is hard to say how to determine which wishes are more prevalent — spiritual or material. Men are no less willing to make wishes, but women more often share their dreams with loved ones, while men prefer to keep them to themselves.
What practice would you recommend at the end of the outgoing year?
- The practice of gratitude for the past year and everything that happened in it. Even if there were negative emotions and stresses, as a result of these experiences, we gained knowledge.
It is important to thank yourself, those around you, the events, and to realize what valuable things you gained during this period.
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