Children are more observant than commonly thought. They absorb not only the direct words of adults but also observe their behavior, reactions, and attitudes towards others. It is important for parents that words and actions align, and that behavioral patterns are positive.
1. Relationships Between Adults
Even if a child seems oblivious, they track non-verbal signals: glances, gestures, tone of voice. Criticism, sarcasm, or disdain towards other family members shape the child's understanding of relationships. Positive comments about parents and relatives reinforce the child's sense of safety and confidence.
2. Parents' Attitude Towards Their Own Bodies
Children mimic adults' reactions to their own reflections, clothing, or photographs. Embarrassment or dissatisfaction with their appearance can lead to a negative self-image in the child. A positive example is the acceptance of one's body and self-confidence.
3. Adults' Values
A child draws conclusions about their parents' values by observing their everyday behavior. Inconsistency between words and actions creates conflicting attitudes. For example, if parents talk about honesty but ask the child to lie for convenience, it creates confusion about what is truly important.
4. Self-Compassion
The ability to show compassion to oneself is learned through observation. If parents are critical and harshly judge themselves, the child adopts perfectionism and self-criticism. Conversely, a kind attitude towards one's own mistakes teaches the child resilience and the ability to learn from failures.
5. Attitude Towards Food
Children notice how adults categorize foods as "good" and "bad," blame themselves for what they eat, or skip meals. These patterns shape the child's eating behavior. A positive example is a balanced and calm approach to nutrition.
6. Conversations About the Child with Others
Even ironic jokes or dissatisfaction discussed with other adults are subconsciously perceived by the child. It is better to focus on solutions and lessons the child has learned rather than on mistakes or problems, while respecting their feelings.
Correct parental attitudes and consistency between words and actions help children grow up confident, emotionally resilient, and capable of healthy relationships with others.
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