The feeling of closeness and harmony in a couple does not always come naturally. Even in long-term relationships, signals may arise that something has lost balance: initiative has disappeared, routine has replaced spontaneity, and emotions are no longer discussed. The publication Metro highlighted 11 signs of imbalance and recommendations that help restore harmony and sexual intimacy.
1. You feel unnoticed
Your partner has stopped genuinely appreciating your contribution, and the usual "thank you" sounds formal. If you are giving more than you receive, it is important to understand why you agree to such an imbalance.
2. No discussions about feelings and sexual life
If the couple does not talk about what they like, what is important, and what they want, cooperation is lost. One simple question — "What do you need right now?" — often works better than any guesses.
3. Your partner rarely takes the initiative
If the initiative always comes from only one person, it is worth restoring balance: planning time together, discussing desires, and sharing responsibility equally.
4. No feedback
Silence often arises from fear of conflict or the feeling that the partner is not being heard. Intimacy requires space for honest conversations.
5. Your desires are ignored
If your needs are overlooked, this is a clear signal of a breach of reciprocity. Such an imbalance should be discussed directly.
6. Spontaneity has disappeared
Routine kills sexual attraction. Small surprises, dates, or new joint activities bring back energy and interest.
7. No emotional conversations after conflicts
Discussing feelings after a quarrel helps avoid the accumulation of grievances and strengthens the bond. This is no less important than talking during the conflict.
8. Neglect of foreplay
Intimacy is created not only at the moment of sex but also through small gestures of attention outside of it.
9. Lack of equality
If decisions and emotional work fall on one partner, the relationship ceases to be a partnership. Equal contribution is key to harmony.
10. Insufficient attention to the partner's feelings
Noticing non-verbal signals, responding to emotions and needs is an important part of a deep, sustainable connection.
11. Fear of taking initiative
Feeling shy to suggest something new or express a desire reduces participation in sexual life. Small steps help regain confidence and reciprocity.
There are no perfect relationships, but daily support, attentiveness, and a willingness to notice signals of imbalance help maintain the health of the sexual connection — alive, fulfilling, and harmonious.
