After a conflict with your partner, it’s important not just to say "sorry," but to behave correctly so that the fight leaves no lasting impact. Psychologists advise avoiding five typical mistakes that can increase misunderstandings and distance you from each other.
What Not to Do After Reconciliation
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Fall into "all or nothing" thinking
Avoid generalizations like "you always" or "you never." After a fight, it’s important to consider your partner's perspective and remain impartial, rather than escalating the conflict.
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Show Coldness
Silence and the "three-day rule" only increase misunderstandings. If feelings are still running high, it’s better to talk openly than to wait for the other person to reach out first.
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Bring Up Past Statements During the Fight
What was said in the heat of the conflict should remain in the past. After reconciliation, it’s not worth revisiting grievances and hurtful words.
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Make Excuses for Your Actions
Don’t shift the blame onto a bad day, fatigue, or lack of sleep. Honest and calm dialogue is much more effective than excuses.
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Blame Yourself for the Conflict
Fights are normal and can indicate that both of you care about your relationship. The key is to learn how to resolve conflicts, not to blame yourself for them.
Proper reconciliation helps partners grow emotionally and strengthens their bond. After a fight, honesty, respect, and a willingness to listen to each other are essential.
