Do You Write Like This? 10 Phrases That Turn People Off in Online Dating 0 8

Online dating is a kind of showcase of personality. However, as practice shows, most people completely underestimate the power of their profile. Many fill out their profiles as if they are writing yet another boring resume. Psychologists assure that any template phrases not only do not work — they create the impression that you are trying to hide behind banal clichés that actually say nothing about you.

Here are 10 phrases that will spoil the impression when meeting:

"I’m just going with the flow"

At first glance, this phrase seems carefree, but in reality, it creates the impression that you don’t care about what you want and with whom. Adults are looking for a partner who knows what they want from life and relationships. Replace such phrases with specifics: what is important to you, what you expect from a meeting, what values are decisive for you: "I love quiet evenings with a book and sincere conversations; I value honesty and humor in a partner."

"I’m a simple, down-to-earth person"

Words like "down-to-earth" or "simple" are too subjective and boring. Of course, some may consider this modesty, but others may see it as a complete lack of ambition. To make a good impression, it’s better to tell a bit more about yourself with examples. Write in your profile how you like to spend your free time, what you are passionate about, what you cherish, or what you strive for. For example: "I love cooking and hosting cozy evenings for friends."

"Consistency is the key to success"

This sounds like a quote from a motivational poster and reveals little about you as a person. Most people want to see that a potential partner is genuinely consistent in actions, not just in words. Instead of this universal slogan, it’s better to provide real examples: "I love finishing the projects I start, whether it’s a reading marathon or a kitchen renovation."

"I’ll make you laugh"

The phrase sounds like a command rather than an invitation to communicate and certainly not to flirt. Laughter is an exchange of emotions, not an obligation for another person to turn into a clown to make someone else smile. Instead, you could add a bit of humor about yourself in your profile: "Sometimes I try to tell jokes, but more often I laugh at my own blunders." This way, a potential partner will see your lightness and ability for self-irony, which captivates better than any cliché.

"If my cat doesn’t like you, then it won’t work out between us"

This cliché does sound quite funny, but it cannot be denied that it creates the impression of a test or a check, which almost always quickly repels. People want to understand what you are looking for in a person, not whose sympathies are more important to you. It’s better to indicate your life values and expectations from a relationship: "It’s important that we can support each other even in the toughest times."

"I’m easy-going"

And what if you’re not? Typically, those who write such things are rarely ready to drop everything for a trip at three in the morning. Therefore, such phrases almost always raise distrust and doubts about the person’s honesty. It would be more advantageous to tell what spontaneity means to you, for example: "I love spontaneous weekend trips to other cities if I have the time and mood." This will make your profile more lively and sincere.

"Friends say I’m handsome/smart/funny"

This is a classic "humble brag" that often works against you. Potential partners want to see your qualities for themselves. Instead of listing your virtues, it’s better to show them through your photos, actions, or habits. For example, a phrase like "I love coming up with surprises for friends" will simultaneously show care and hint at your creativity.

"I love to travel"

This is too general. People want to see your individuality: where you like to go, why, and how often. To immediately find a potential partner who shares your interests, it would be more advantageous to write: "I adore trips to historical places and little getaways to nature to get inspired and recharge my energy."

"I love family and friends"

This sounds like a hollow compliment to oneself and says little about you as a person. It’s much better to specify: "I value evening gatherings with friends and family dinners on Sundays." With this phrase, you will demonstrate your values and talk about your habits, rather than abstract kindness.

"I’m here for the first time" or "I’m new to the dating site"

A phrase that every second person writes. While honesty is certainly always appreciated, these words are too general and look like an excuse in case of mistakes. Instead of such a "safety net," it’s better to show your openness to new experiences and willingness to communicate: "I decided to try online dating and am looking for an interesting conversation partner for meetings and walks."

Online dating is not just about telling about yourself, but a chance to showcase your individuality. Empty clichés and vague phrases make a profile boring and uninformative, leaving no chance to find a truly worthy partner. The more specifically you describe your interests, talk about your habits, and express your values, the greater your chances of attracting the person who will truly appreciate you.