Broken Feelings: How to End a Relationship with a Married Man 0 8

The situation where infatuation intersects with a man's family ties is a complex topic. Such relationships may seem romantic and exciting, but the reality is that they bring pain to everyone: to you, your partner, and his legal spouse. Building a happy future under such circumstances is impossible.

However, love sometimes clouds common sense, and breaking free from the vicious circle is not easy. But there is a clear guide that can help you end a relationship with a married man and live a full life without guilt.

Pay attention to your partner's actions, not his words

When a partner says he is going to get a divorce, you want to believe him. It is easy to fall for false promises when you have feelings. It is much harder to understand that the man has likely not made any real attempts to end his primary relationship.

Escaping reality only harms you and the future you deserve with someone who can truly love you. Confronting reality and the inevitable disappointment is the first step to opening your heart to real, genuine love.

Realize that your partner has a completely different life

Affairs are intoxicating because they are built on brief, passionate encounters and are completely disconnected from the everyday demands placed on primary relationships. That’s why it’s important to ask yourself: what will my affair partner be like when he returns home to his wife and children, and how have I idealized him in this side relationship?

Relationships are built on fantasies, not on real life. No children, no domesticity. When you are with someone who is still married, you only see part of his personality because he is not free, and therefore, most often, it is only his positive side.

Remind yourself that you deserve someone's undivided attention

You may enjoy the time you spend together, but ultimately, you are undervaluing yourself if you are not receiving your partner's full attention. There is even a chance that a secret affair has undermined your self-esteem and made you believe that you are unworthy of love or trusting relationships.

You can rejoice in the moments spent together, but in the end, if you are not receiving your partner's full attention and respect, you are clearly undervaluing yourself. Secret affairs often turn out to be destructive: they can ruin your self-esteem and make you doubt your own worth and right to full, open relationships.

Secret connections leave a residue in the soul, creating a sense of inadequacy. But remember: if you are used to putting yourself second, seeking approval, and hiding the truth, this does not reflect the real state of affairs. You deserve a loving relationship where partners are open, trust each other, and can negotiate mutual needs.

Break up in person, not through messaging

Ghosting is not a way to end a relationship, let alone one as tense and complicated as an affair. To avoid tangled emotional ties in the future and to gain some closure, end the relationship in person.

A direct conversation, though unpleasant, will allow you to express your feelings, hear each other out, and reach a certain consensus. This is better than abruptly cutting off communication, leaving the other person confused and uncertain. Personal contact helps demonstrate respect and ensure that your partner understands your decision. In the future, this will ease the acceptance of reality and restore emotional balance for both parties.

Do not use vague phrases when breaking up

You may be tempted to soften the breakup with vague phrases like "maybe one day it will work out for us" or "I will always have feelings for you," but this will not help either you or your partner.

Do not give false hope. Say that you are saying goodbye and can no longer see each other — period, no exceptions. You need to close the emotional door between you and cut off all contact.

Cut off any attempts to reconnect

Once you have definitively broken up with him, do not allow your ex-partner to re-enter your life. He may call you and try to meet in person to convince you to stay. Fight the urge to see him again. Remember how many times you tried to reach out to him in the past, but he was too busy. Then realize that ultimately you are freeing yourself from an unhealthy relationship.