As experts warn, it is important to remember that this is a commercial model.
Finland is one of the leaders in Europe in the use of dating apps. However, the algorithms of these services can lead to emotional burnout.
– To prevent this, it is necessary to set a clear goal, and then life will become significantly easier. At the same time, it is important to remember that dating apps operate based on algorithms that have nothing against you personally – you just need to learn how to apply these algorithms to your advantage, – says theater producer and active dating app user Irina Dushkova in a discussion on the website yle.fi.
When used correctly, dating apps can indeed help find a soulmate. But still, as experts warn, it is important to remember that this is a commercial model aimed at making money and keeping the user "on the hook" for as long as possible. However, the lack of matches and likes can significantly lower a person's self-esteem.
Using dating apps can activate the fear of rejection, warns psychotherapist Evgenia Uglova.
– This is one of our deepest fears, it is embedded in us evolutionarily. There are studies that show our brain interprets social rejection literally as physical pain, and the same areas of the brain are activated.
One of the main factors on which strong relationships can be built, according to Evgenia Uglova, is values.
– It would be good to understand the basics about yourself, your attitude towards the world, and your expectations from it. Contact with reality is important. When you are looking for Brad Pitt, you need to understand whether you are Angelina Jolie. In other words, you need to realistically assess your capabilities.
According to Irina Dushkova, successful dating and meetings are impossible without flirting.
– Unfortunately, apps have practically killed flirting. This is the worst thing that is happening. You meet on a date, and it turns into a job interview. Few people reach the point where you relax and start flirting with each other.
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