Sometimes giving up on a goal proves to be more beneficial for mental health than persistent striving for it. A large-scale meta-analysis showed that timely "letting go" of intentions reduces stress and anxiety, increases life satisfaction, and opens up space for new opportunities.
Scientific Perspective
PhD Maria Dollard reported in Nature that an international team of researchers from Denmark, France, Belgium, the United Kingdom, the United States, and Australia studied the psychological consequences of giving up on goals and their flexible adjustment. The meta-analysis covered 235 studies and over 1,400 correlations between giving up or achieving goals and the psychological state of participants.
Giving up on a goal occurs when a person consciously abandons the intention at both the cognitive (thoughts) and behavioral (actions) levels. People are more likely to give up on goals if:
- they receive criticism regarding the feasibility of their actions;
- they feel danger or threat;
- they enter a "crisis of activity" when it is unclear what to do next.
It is easier to give up externally imposed goals than those closely tied to self-identity.
Psychological Benefits
Those who gave up on unattainable goals had lower levels of stress, anxiety, and depression. Blind persistence, on the other hand, worsened mental health. Giving up on a goal:
- helps realistically assess the ratio of resources to costs;
- opens space for new achievable goals;
- reduces the risk of emotional exhaustion.
Re-engagement and Goal Transformation
After giving up, a person may choose a new goal, a simplified version of the old one, or an alternative path to achievement. This requires cognitive and emotional resources, so those prone to re-engagement are often characterized by high self-confidence, independence, and optimism. They demonstrate lower levels of stress and anxiety and a high level of personal growth.
Flexibility as a Superpower
The ability to adapt goals to real resources and circumstances is associated with better mental, social, and physical well-being. People with a flexible approach experience less anxiety and depression, maintain emotional balance, and find new opportunities for growth.
Giving up on a difficult goal does not guarantee instant happiness, but it prevents burnout and disappointment. Realistic goals to replace old ones reduce stress and increase life satisfaction. Flexibility in achieving goals is not a weakness but a true strength.
