Jewish Happiness: What Preserves an Orthodox Marriage

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Publiation data: 14.11.2025 17:32

Церемонии отработаны даже не за века, а за тысячелетия.

Abstinence returns the couple to the period when they were engaged to each other.

Simple truths about relationships in marriage from Orthodox Jews can replace an expensive psychoanalyst.

It is believed that religious Jews are the most successful family people. To maintain a happy marriage, they follow rules that seem to lack any innovations. All of them are found in the religious texts of the Torah.

Publicist Zinaida Anastasia Anna Zabelshanskaya explains why Jews are so successful in love. It turns out that by following the tenets of the Jewish worldview, one can approach the ideal in relationships.

Moreover, it should be noted that Jews have advanced far ahead on the ladder of understanding the relationships between men and women, unlike Europeans.

While Western society is trying to figure out gender roles and visits psychoanalysts to improve family life, Jews live in complete harmony and peace.

A Husband Must Provide for His Wife

While Europe is trying to determine who should pay for a date, Jews have everything clearly defined. Before marriage, a marriage contract — a ketubah — is necessarily signed.

This document outlines the husband's obligations to his wife: he must provide her with food, clothing, and fully meet her other needs.

If the happy home breaks apart and the couple divorces, the husband is obligated to give his ex-wife a sum of money that corresponds to her needs. Even in this case, a woman should not limit herself in any way.

Sex is the Husband's Duty and the Wife's Right

The ketubah also contains another important point. "For the pleasure of his wife, the husband is literally accountable to God. Satisfying his wife is one of the ways to serve the Almighty," says Zabelshanskaya.

The Torah views sex as the husband's duty to his wife, not the other way around. The fact is that a man is obliged to regularly satisfy his wife in bed and ensure that she experiences pleasure.

The husband must independently pick up on signals that indicate the woman needs affection and offer her intimacy.

According to the rules of the Jewish worldview, a woman should not have to ask for a man's attention — it should be given abundantly. And indeed, this Jewish wisdom has long surpassed all of us. While post-Soviet society still refers to sex as a "male need," Jews have long shown respect for female physiology.

For 12 Days a Month, Husband and Wife Do Not Touch Each Other

You might be thinking: what is this, the last century? But nothing could be further from the truth! What could be worse in married life than becoming jaded with each other?

In Jewish religious texts, there is a clever piece of advice that helps avoid this problem. During menstruation and for a week afterward, the husband and wife are prohibited from hugging, kissing, and sleeping in the same bed.

If you think about it, this abstinence essentially returns the couple to the period when they were engaged to each other. And the first night after these 12 days symbolically becomes their first wedding night.

In our opinion, this is a brilliant and very romantic solution. If everyone followed this advice, the number of divorces would clearly decrease.

Treat Your Wife as God Treats the Jewish People

Interpreters of the Torah compare the marriage between a man and a woman to the covenant between the Almighty and the Jews. According to tradition, after entering into a sacred contract with His people, God behaved like a husband with a wife: He clothed, fed, and cared for them.

Even when the people made mistakes, acceptance, humility, and forgiveness replaced anger towards the Lord. Thus, husbands are recommended to treat their wives. As we can see, the rules are indeed very simple and quite easy to implement. It is no wonder they say: "Everything genius is simple, and everything simple is genius."