Not all breakups are the same. Some methods seem modern and beautiful, but in reality, they cause pain and leave psychological scars. These ways allow the person breaking up to leave without difficult conversations, but leave the partner confused and in emotional chaos.
1. Benching
The partner is in no hurry to develop the relationship, but also does not completely end it, as if keeping you on the “bench.” They may show attention from time to time, but in fact, the relationship does not progress.
Sign: events are stagnant, while emotions fluctuate up and down.
2. Banksy-ing
Gradual distancing without explanations, which ends with the partner's sudden disappearance. Named after the artist Banksy, whose artwork was nearly destroyed during a sale.
Sign: sudden disappearance after a period of distancing, refusal to discuss what is happening.
3. Ghosting
A sudden complete disappearance of the partner without warning or explanation. The difference from banksy-ing: there is no prior cooling-off period.
Sign: complete ignoring of calls and messages for a long time.
4. Submarining
“Ghosting 2.0”: the partner first disappears and then just as suddenly reappears in your life as if nothing happened. Sign: ignoring questions about the reasons for the disappearance and minimizing the problem upon return.
5. Scrooging
A temporary breakup before the holidays to save money or avoid commitments. Named after Charles Dickens' character Ebenezer Scrooge.
Sign: breakup right before the holidays with an attempt to resume the relationship afterward.
These methods make life easier for the one breaking up but cause emotional harm to the partner left behind. It is important to recognize them in time to avoid emotional swings and protect yourself.
