If you are lucky enough to meet someone who understands themselves and others, recognizes and manages emotions — you have truly found a rarity. Relationships with such a partner bring peace, support, and a sense of confidence that there is someone you can rely on in any situation. A psychologist highlights four signs that indicate your partner can be trusted.
Expert: Candy Vins, emotional intelligence specialist and senior researcher at Pennsylvania State University
1. He knows how to argue correctly
Such a person does not avoid conflicts and does not sulk; instead, he calmly discusses problems. He does not raise his voice, does not belittle, and does not try to win the argument. Even when emotions run high, he is able to quickly compose himself, acknowledge his mistake, and apologize.
2. He is capable of empathy
A partner with high emotional intelligence can put himself in your shoes. He genuinely cares about your feelings and thoughts, listens attentively, and does not devalue your point of view. Because of this, you feel understood and respected.
3. He manages strong emotions
Such a person does not hide his feelings or project them onto others. He is aware of what is happening with him and chooses healthy ways to recover — walking, exercising, or spending time with loved ones. He does not drown his stress in alcohol and does not look for someone to blame.
4. He does not try to change you
An emotionally mature partner accepts you as you are. He does not dictate how you should look, what you should do, or who you should associate with. He respects your boundaries and supports any of your goals without imposing his views on what is "right."
If you recognize your partner in these descriptions, you are indeed lucky. Such relationships bring not a storm of emotions, but a calm and deep happiness that only grows stronger over time.
