The modern world cannot be imagined without social media. They have become a part of our lives, but unfortunately, also a tool for violence.
What is Digital Abuse?
It is not just harmless jokes in messaging. It is systematic humiliation, control, and stalking through technology. This type of abuse is more dangerous than the usual, as it can occur around the clock and leave deep wounds in the psyche. Anyone can become a victim: a partner, a colleague, a classmate. The abuser derives pleasure from the power and fear they instill.
Forms of Digital Abuse
There are countless forms of violence against others, and it is practically impossible to list them all. The situation has worsened with the emergence of artificial intelligence, which has provided everyone the ability to create fake photos to harm the reputation of others.
Upskirting: Taking intimate pictures of body parts without consent. Furthermore, if the offender is in a circle of acquaintances, they start to blackmail the victim using the obtained materials, demanding money or setting other conditions.
Doxxing: Publishing personal confidential information online, such as home address, documents, medical issues, phone number, etc. The goal is the same as in the first form — to blackmail the victim, extorting money or threatening harm.
Cyberstalking: Obsessive online stalking of a person, such as sending messages, photos, or videos. The aim is to intimidate the victim or drive them to a hysterical state, making them easier to manipulate. Cyberstalking can also transition into reality, for example, by learning the exact address and waiting for the person near their home.
Cyberbullying: Insults and threats on social media, both in private messages and in comments. It is especially dangerous for teenagers with undeveloped psyches.
Intimate Revenge: Mass publication or sending intimate photos and videos in private messages after breaking up with an abusive partner.
Sextortion: Blackmailing with explicit photos and videos to obtain money and other benefits. The extorter may also send their nude pictures and write messages with explicit undertones to drive the victim to a hysterical state.
Signs of Digital Abuse in Relationships
The partner demands that you always respond to their messages and calls immediately
This disguised violence is cloaked in care and love. The partner wants to always be in touch with you, sending an endless number of messages, and gets angry or threatens if you do not respond immediately, even if you were busy or went to sleep.
The partner insults and always uses your weaknesses against you
Insults and threats appear in messaging, even at the slightest mistake or when the partner is in a bad mood.
The partner demands that you download a location tracking app
The partner insists on installing a tracking app, hiding behind your safety.
The partner restricts your circle of communication
Limiting your circle of communication is a sign of abusive relationships that manifests online as well. The aggressor may dictate who you can communicate with, creating a long list of prohibitions. This allows them to control your environment and prevent you from seeking help in a crisis.
The partner creates fake accounts to stalk you
To avoid drawing attention to themselves, the partner may create a fake account and monitor your actions.
The partner publishes insulting posts about you on social media
The partner shares information about you without permission. Most often, this includes materials that are unpleasant or unwanted for you. Additionally, the partner may speak negatively about you on their personal profiles or leave critical comments under posts of mutual acquaintances.
The partner demands access to all your accounts
The partner insists on access to your phone and social media, manipulating trust and using threats.
If you give them full access, your personal boundaries will be destroyed: you will have to report on every little thing.
The partner coerces you into creating intimate content and then uses it for blackmail
Coercion into sending explicit pictures, followed by threats of publication.
How to Protect Yourself from Digital Abuse?
Discuss personal boundaries: Explain to your partner that interference in your personal life is unacceptable. If you do not want to send intimate photos, say so. An abusive partner will typically not show understanding. In that case, consider whether you are willing to tolerate the control.
Refuse to send intimate photos: Do not be afraid to say "no" if you do not want to send explicit pictures.
Do not give passwords if it makes you uncomfortable: Protect your accounts with two-factor authentication.
Share with loved ones: Talk about the situation with friends or family; do not stay alone.
Keep evidence: Take screenshots of conversations and record threats.
Digital abuse is a serious problem that cannot be ignored. It is important to recognize the signs of such violence and know how to protect yourself. Do not be afraid to talk about the problem and seek help!
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