Many women say they need a little 'liquid courage.'
A British woman, who had never made love while sober, realized at 37 what she had been missing, writes Daily Mirror. According to the woman, she has never felt better in a relationship than when she gave up alcohol. Now her dates take place in coffee shops and on walks.
Catherine Renton’s words: "At 37, I lost my virginity. For the second time. As I lay in bed with my new partner Mark, I laughed and said, 'I’ve never done this before.' I meant that I had never been so naked, so real, so... sober. Formally, I lost my virginity at 17 after a drunken night with a colleague, and then spent nearly 20 years having sex under the influence of alcohol, often remembering nothing about the act itself and doing things I later regretted, including cheating.
More than once, I woke up in someone else's bed, not remembering how I got there. It’s no surprise that I rarely experienced orgasm. I knew nothing about that amazing feeling of satisfaction and deep connection that true intimacy can bring — without alcohol."
"That’s why I consider that night with Mark to be the first time I had real, meaningful sex. I hadn’t drunk for a year and a half and was with a man for the first time without having had a drink beforehand. It was a revelation, like stepping into the light after a life in darkness. I experienced orgasms more intense than ever before. I was no longer passive and didn’t let sex just 'happen' to me. I was in complete control of the situation and felt sexy.
You don’t have to be an alcoholic like me to have never had sex sober. Many women say they need a little 'liquid courage' to sleep with a new partner; some can’t even imagine a kiss without a glass of wine. Studies show that up to 64% of people in the UK have sex while intoxicated, but only 20% 'always enjoy it.'
Alcohol has become an integral part of modern dating culture. Like many women, I used to think I needed to be tipsy to feel sexy. But then I realized there’s nothing more sensual than living in the moment. I have certainly come a long way from that drunken first encounter with a colleague after a party where I downed a bottle of wine, even though I was underage. He kept telling me I was beautiful, and I was so drunk that I believed him. We went back to his place. The sex was over quickly, and as I started to sober up, I hurriedly got dressed and left. We never had sex again; I was ashamed that I had opened up to him (in every sense) and was sure he had only slept with me because he was drunk himself."
