"None of them deserved betrayal," says sexologist Artem Gerasimov, who works with men who have cheated. He asserts that infidelity is often not about how a woman looks, but about much deeper psychological and emotional reasons.
The "Perfection" of a Partner Can Be Intimidating
Many men believe that being with an "ideal" woman means they must excel in everything. However, this expectation leads not to admiration but to the fear of not measuring up. Psychologically, this can result in lowered self-esteem and a sense of inadequacy. In such situations, infidelity becomes a way to regain a sense of control and significance.
Internal Problems Are More Important Than External Ones
Often, men cheat not because they dislike their partner, but because they feel uncomfortable within themselves. A psychologist notes that many cheaters suffer from low self-esteem, fear of aging, or unfulfilled lives. A new relationship gives them the illusion of validation of their attractiveness and desirability.
Unknown Desires and Needs
When men are asked why they cheated, many are confused and do not know how to respond. This indicates that the reasons often lie not in sex but in feelings of boredom, emptiness, or a thirst for new experiences. The issue may not be with the partner but with dissatisfaction in their own life.
Infidelity Is Not Always Malicious Intent
Despite the betrayal, the act of cheating rarely stems from malice. Gerasimov emphasizes that men generally struggle to express their fears and anxieties verbally, especially when they are taught to suppress emotions and not talk about weaknesses. Instead, a "escape" from feelings occurs through physical contact with another person.
What to Do If It Happens
If you have cheated, it is important to honestly acknowledge what it was — not "just sex," but a symptom of deeper internal problems. You need to understand what exactly you are trying to hide or what you are running away from, and decide whether to continue the relationship or not.
...If you have been cheated on, it is helpful to remember that it is not always your fault — even an ideal, beautiful, and loving woman does not guarantee a partner's fidelity. It is better to honestly discuss what happened, understand the reasons, and decide whether to continue the relationship or move on.
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