Stop Waiting for the Chimes: 5 Rules by Labkovsky That Change Your Life 0 8

For many, summarizing the year has become a tradition, especially if a person actively uses social media. At the same time, many do not want to focus on this topic, but involuntarily begin to reflect.

If you feel that your year-end results are complete nonsense, and starting a new life with such a start will not work anyway, do not rush to get upset, says psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky.

"Our psyche is structured in such a way that it first focuses on the negative. This feature helped our distant ancestors survive in the wild, and we have inherited anxiety — to a greater or lesser extent," says the expert.

It turns out that the brain consciously chooses negative outcomes. But a rational and modern person is capable of switching it, just a little effort is enough.

The psychologist recommends not making lists, but sitting down and thinking about what good has happened to you and what you are grateful for. This will help tune into a positive wave and start that very new life after the chimes.

From here, other questions immediately arise: "How to properly start a new life?", "How to make it work this time?" And here there is another nuance that many forget.

"A new life does not start by the calendar; it starts when you stop waiting. As long as you are frozen in expectation of 'magic', the right moment, and 'that very' day/hour/minute, life just goes on, and dreams remain unfulfilled," says Mikhail Labkovsky.

The fear of change prevents a person from fulfilling their dreams. Do you want to not lose to yourself this time? Then follow the psychologist's instructions.

1. Stop Performing Feats

You are not in a competition where you need to prove something to someone. Changes are needed for yourself, not for others, so do not try to impress them.

"You decided to change your life for yourself — accept this as a fact. Like the fact that pasta is in the cupboard and not in the bathroom; no one evaluates you for that," says the psychologist.

2. Make an Action Plan

Changes require a system. You need to write down what exactly you plan to do to fulfill your cherished desires.

Specify concrete actions, without fluff! And think in advance about alternatives, as there should always be a plan 'B'.

3. Take Small Steps

Slow and steady wins the race. Do you remember that saying? Stop wanting everything at once and take small steps.

Your goal should be specific and tangible. Not to achieve Victoria Beckham's figure, but to lose 3 kilograms in winter, and 4 in spring.

4. Create a Schedule

If you have planned something — you do it. Not when "you feel like it," but at the time you specified.

Planning greatly enhances discipline; you start to accomplish more without getting as tired.

5. Allow Yourself to Slip-Ups

No one can be perfect. It is impossible to run every morning and read a book every evening, as sometimes you want to sleep longer and watch your favorite show.

"You are a living person. You can be angry, cry, scream, be afraid, and so on. But this is not a reason to give up everything. If you slip up — get up and move on," says Mikhail Labkovsky.

Treat slip-ups philosophically and with humor. Then they will become much less frequent, and your goals will continue to inspire you.