The 'Mark of Misfortune': How the Universe Hints That Your Partner Is Not Meant for You

Astrologer Olesya Legotina reveals the secret signals from the Universe that suggest your chosen one is not the person destined for you.

“People often come to me with the question: ‘How can I tell that this is not my person?’” says the astrologer. We are so afraid of making a mistake that we ignore the quiet, and then the loud, hints. The Universe always cares for us and sets up warning signs. Our task is to see them.

Here’s how the Universe hints that you are not on your right path:

1. Your energy is constantly at zero

This is the most reliable indicator. After meetings and even conversations, you feel drained, as if all your juices have been sucked out. Healthy relationships fill you up, give you wings. Toxic ones drain your energy because you spend it on trying to “hold on” to what, by its nature, should not be with you. Your soul is exhausted, trying to illuminate a path that leads to a dead end.

2. You constantly have to “fight for love”

You are battling his insecurities, his past, his indifference, etc. You are constantly proving your worth. But ask yourself: should love from Destiny be a battlefield? No — true relationships come easily, naturally. If you are constantly in “storming the fortress” mode, perhaps you are storming the wrong fortress.

3. Your intuition is raising alarms

This is that quiet but persistent inner voice that whispers, “Something is wrong.” You may drown it out with logic (“he’s a good person,” “we’ve been through so much together”), excuses, and fear of loneliness. But the anxiety in your soul does not subside. It is your Higher Self screaming that you are sacrificing your integrity for an illusion.

4. The world around you starts to “break”

Do you notice that since you’ve been with this person, everything has gone awry? Plans fall apart, financial difficulties arise, relationships with loved ones deteriorate, health problems begin. The Universe gently, and then more forcefully, places obstacles in your way, trying to stop you and guide you back on the right path. It literally creates barriers so that you cannot move forward with the wrong companion.

Astrologers look at synastry, or compatibility, to understand if this is your person. There are several formulas referred to as the “Mark of Misfortune.” This is a true karmic trap for both. When this configuration occurs in synastry, the connection feels fateful, insurmountable, and destructive. It is not just “difficult relationships” — it is a union that activates the deepest wounds in partners, creating a sense that you are doomed to torment each other.

Here are some alarming signs:

• You experience irrational, painful passion; deep fears and complexes are exacerbated in the presence of this person;

• You feel a “soulmate” connection, but this kinship falls into the category of “we are both broken”; the bond is built on mutual emotional dependence and pain;

• Your relationship resembles that of “executioner and victim,” with a constant struggle for power, jealousy, and a desire to completely control and reshape your partner. Breaking up seems impossible because the bond is too deep and painful, like a surgical operation without anesthesia;

• You are constantly criticized, restricted, and besieged;

• There is no emotional comfort, no admiration or pleasure from being together;

• Quarrels over trivial matters, rudeness in expressions of “love,” mismatches in the intimate sphere;

• How the “Mark of Misfortune” manifests in the couple's life:

• You seem to mirror each other’s worst qualities and unresolved issues;

• The relationship develops in a cycle of “quarrel — painful reconciliation — brief calm — new quarrel”;

• You feel that you are bound not by love, but by pain, fear of loneliness, and a sense of “duty”;

• Together, you are objectively worse off: you are more anxious, more ill, and less successful than when apart.

The “Mark of Misfortune” indicates the most challenging yet transformative karmic lesson for both, but it is not a sentence. There is a chance for healing if:

• Both partners recognize the destructiveness of the pattern and take responsibility for their role in it.

• Both are ready for deep personal therapy and working through their traumas, rather than shifting blame.

• They learn to channel the powerful energy of the bond into constructive avenues — joint creativity, deep psychological analysis, helping others in similar situations.

Be sure to listen to yourself and the Universe, paying attention to the hints and signals from your body.