It only seems that there is still plenty of time before the New Year holidays. In reality, amidst the hustle and bustle of workdays, you won’t even blink before you are hastily doing a thorough cleaning and buying groceries for the festive table. There is also another important task that we overlook in the run-up to the New Year. Psychologist Veronika Akhmetova reminded us that it would be good to look into the depths of our wardrobes and finally free them from everything unnecessary. And such "goodies" are usually abundant in every woman’s closet, even for those who always claim they have nothing to wear.
Dowry That Will Not Be Used
A shirt that might come in handy someday, jeans that are one size smaller just in case for motivation when I lose weight, a little black dress that is no longer little and is out of fashion, and so on. A familiar set? And there are also fur coats, down jackets, high-heeled boots, bags from my student days. "Dowry" accumulates every year, but it is hardly going to be passed down to children and grandchildren. Times have changed, and fashion is rapidly evolving. So let’s act quickly and ruthlessly.
"It’s not just about making room for new things. In general, decluttering is a powerful psychotherapy session that is available to each of us absolutely free, and it has a huge number of bonuses. Imagine that this wardrobe is your consciousness, cluttered with old grievances, old problems, unfulfilled hopes, plans that you keep postponing. And every time you open your consciousness, you feel a slight fear because there are so many things that are just lying there, unable to find a purpose," explains the expert.
The Three Box Rule
Veronika Akhmetova recommends sorting things as follows: "Take three boxes. In the first, put items that bring you happiness and joy, fit perfectly, and please the eye. We keep those. The second box is for things to throw away. And they don’t have to be eaten by moths, just those that you don’t wear. And you don’t plan to wear anytime soon. Say 'thank you, goodbye' and take the box to the trash." The third box is the most treacherous category.
Here we will put those illusionary items that you plan to 'lose weight, alter, maybe someday.' Give yourself a deadline, agree on it, write the date on the box, for example, 'six months.' And if you haven’t worn them by that time, they go into the second category, that is, to the trash. There’s also an option to donate them to charities for those in need. Don’t forget to ask yourself the mental question: 'Do I feel confident and comfortable in this item? Do I like it, and do I even need it?' If you feel any doubt, send it to the second category as well.
There’s another way to understand whether this item holds value for you. Imagine that you saw it for the first time in a store. Would you buy it again or would you not even want to try it on? The answer will come immediately, as will the decision.
A Holy Place Should Not Be Empty
The psychologist assured that as soon as the wardrobe is freed from unnecessary burdens, order will also reign in your head and soul. "You are tidying up your wardrobe and sending a clear signal to your mind, to your brain. I am the mistress of my life and can bring order. You are letting go of the past," she explains.
Don’t forget to treat yourself for the work done. You can confidently hang new dresses, trousers, and blouses on the free shelves and hangers. Stroll through online stores, create a mini-dream wardrobe by adding to your cart those items that catch your eye. Try them on and enjoy your new purchases. This final step is also important as a reward for the brave farewell to the burdensome past.
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