Infidelity destroys the familiar world of a couple, but it does not always mean the end of the relationship. A psychologist explains when it is worth giving the partner a chance and how to build new, more mature relationships after betrayal.
Expert: Lyudmila Chernova, Psychologist
When to Break Up
Forgiving infidelity is not always necessary. If you have lost trust and respect for your partner, and are constantly experiencing pain or fear — this is a signal that the relationship may be toxic. The decision to leave is not a sign of weakness, but a care for yourself and your own boundaries.
When It Makes Sense to Stay
Reconciliation is possible if:
- The partner sincerely acknowledges their guilt and is willing to work on rebuilding trust;
- Both are ready to go through the emotional process of recovery;
- There is a desire to change the dynamics of the relationship, rather than just “forget” what happened.
It is important to honestly assess your motives: are you staying out of love or out of fear of loneliness?
How to Build New Relationships
- Do not suppress the pain. Express your feelings and discuss them openly.
- Set new boundaries. Define what is acceptable and what is not.
- Seek professional help. Professional support can help overcome anxiety and distrust.
- Do not rush. Rebuilding trust is a long process that can take months.
- Remember yourself. It is important to maintain independence and care for your own needs.
New Relationships — New Rules
If both partners are willing to work on themselves, communicate sincerely, and not avoid pain, it is possible to build deeper and more mature relationships. However, if one is trying to “forget” the problem, the chances of success are minimal.
“Infidelity is not the end of the story. It is a moment when you decide what story you want to write next,” notes the psychologist.
