Modern realities sometimes force partners to be far apart, whether due to work, study, or life circumstances. But long-distance relationships are not a reason to give up pleasure and passion.
If you live near your partner or together with them, you can have sex every day (although not many people actually have that much free time, the opportunity is always there). But if you are in a long-distance relationship, you have much more time to talk about it, fantasize, remember how good it felt last time, and plan the next enjoyable meeting. Anticipation becomes the foreplay.
But remember that maintaining a sexual connection over distance is not only romantic and necessary for the relationship, but also beneficial for health. This state of mutual expectation, imaginative play, and fantasy has a positive effect on the body. When you think about sex, the brain releases happiness hormones — serotonin and oxytocin. These substances lower cortisol levels (the "stress hormone"), promote better sleep, strengthen the immune system, and boost self-esteem.
So, how to improve your sex life if your loved one is far away:
Openness and Honesty — The Foundation of Trust
Communication plays a key role in any relationship, especially when partners are far apart. It is important to openly share your emotions, desires, and expectations with your partner. If doubts or problems arise, do not hesitate to share them. Honesty strengthens trust and helps resolve potential conflicts before they arise.
The needs for intimacy vary for everyone. Some may be satisfied with weekly phone calls. Others may require more frequent communication or a completely different format.
If you agree in advance on how often you want intimacy and in what format it should occur, you and your partner will have a plan of action. For example, for one couple living apart, intimacy may consist of weekly video calls during which they cook the same dish, while for another, it may involve two steamy phone calls a week.
Create Moments of Virtual Intimacy
Thanks to modern technology, you can feel closer to each other even when on different continents. Use video calls, send voice messages, surprise each other with unexpected gifts or nice little things. Share pleasant memories, create a joint collection of photos or videos.
Practical Tip: Organize a joint movie or series viewing online. You can synchronize by choosing the same time, create a cozy atmosphere at home, and enjoy your favorite films together, even if virtually.
Regular Dates
Virtual dates will help you feel physical closeness, even if the distance is great. Prepare for such an evening together: cook or buy the same dishes, choose nice outfits, and play your favorite music. By communicating this way, you will feel as if you are right next to each other.
Practical Tip: Plan a special program for the evening: discuss the upcoming movie, come up with a dinner menu, and create a special atmosphere using candles and relaxing music.
Don’t Pretend
Don’t think that phone sex should resemble a professionally directed scene. This is real life, and your long-distance sex should be genuine. Talk about what you think and feel, what you want. Take pauses. And don’t worry about saying something "wrong." You are with someone who loves you just as much as you love them, so trust that connection.
Be Open to New Experiences
No one is immune to the possibility that sex can become boring, and at a distance, especially with unstable internet, it turns into a challenging task. To maintain interest and passion, variety is needed. For example, try using sex toys. Discuss with your partner how to add some "spice" to your virtual intimate life.
Anticipation of Closeness
Love blossoms stronger when it is awaited. Strive to see each other in person more often, if possible. Meetings become a celebration that strengthens your bond.
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