How Holidays Turn into Conflict: Common Mistakes in Relationships 0 9

The pre-holiday period often becomes a source of stress - whether at work in the last weeks of the year or at home when you are trying to create the perfect atmosphere for the family. This stress, which we create ourselves or take on from the external environment, often provokes conflicts in relationships - from disagreements about gifts to disputes over holiday plans, writes YourTango.

According to experts, people whose relationships often break down during the holidays share six common habits:

The 'Best Holiday' Syndrome

Experts noted that many strive to create a holiday based on the principle of 'like in the movies,' where they must be the most cheerful and organized so that their children have as vivid memories as they do. This desire is understandable, but it can overload your relationship: more stress, tense weekends, and the risk of emotional burnout. Specialists advised discussing expectations with your partner in advance and understanding which traditions are truly important to you so that the holiday does not become a source of tension.

Holiday Fatigue

Certified relationship consultant Jonathan Bennett noted that often the festive mood is replaced by stress: concerts, Christmas trees, shopping, caring for a large family, and expectations can be exhausting. He advised taking care of oneself - exercising, eating well, finding time for breaks - and managing expectations. It is important to remain open to your partner and stay calm, even when the situation becomes tense.

Excessive Spending on Gifts

Many people tend to spend more than planned during the holiday season to please themselves or others. Bennett noted that it is wise to set a budget together with your partner in advance and stick to it strictly. He advised setting a limit for each purchase, making a list, and not deviating from it, avoiding credit cards, and considering sales. Additionally, he pointed out the potential tension if one partner takes on most of the shopping. The expert emphasized that it is important to distribute responsibilities in advance and agree on shopping times.

Disputes Over Holiday Locations

Bennett also noted that conflicts arise when there is a feeling of being pulled in different directions: some holidays with parents, others with relatives. He advised discussing this issue with your partner and sticking to a joint decision. Even if someone feels hurt, the well-being of the family should be a priority, the expert emphasized.

Neglecting Simple Joys and Quality Time Together

Licensed psychologist and marriage consultant Dr. Wyatt Fisher reminded that many forget to nurture their relationships while getting caught up in the pre-holiday hustle. He advised planning daily communication with your partner and meeting at least once or twice a week. Fisher noted that it is important to set boundaries and understand that the quality of time spent together is more important than the race for perfect holiday details.

Attempts to Hide Disagreements

Relationship coach Leslie Doares noted that the holiday season can reveal tense family dynamics: arguing with relatives, facing misunderstandings with a partner. She emphasized that one should not try to impose the illusion of perfect unity if there are conflicts in the family. Attempts at forced 'happiness' can only exacerbate the situation, so it is better to honestly determine where and with whom you will spend the holiday and not seek excuses for anyone's absence.