How do you love a man: as a mother or as a wife? 0 29

And it turns out that they love children and husbands without distinguishing between these concepts. This is manifested in the way women care deeply for their men. For example, a husband and wife are leaving the store, the man is carrying heavy bags, and the woman says to him: “Let me help you, it must be heavy for you!”

Such care for men is evident even in small things, for instance, a woman opens the door for a man and lets him go first. Or how in public transport she gives her seat to her husband — “You sit down, and I’ll stand!” Or she has to work three jobs to help her husband pay off the mortgage.

Why is it considered that a man, doing manly work, providing for the family and achieving goals, is doing hard work? Why does he need help with this? Then who will do the woman’s work? Who will inspire the man, create a space of love for him? Who will take care of the home?

Natalia Kasyanova explained how a woman’s love differs from a mother’s love.

1. Superiority – Acceptance

A mother initially has a position of superiority. This is expressed in attitudes like “I know better,” “I am smarter,” “I am stronger,” “I am wiser….”

But a woman’s position is one of acceptance — to accept a man as he is, to respect him and admire him! Because by respecting a man, she will not dictate to him how to live his life!

2. Control – Trust

How women love to control everything, especially mothers! For example, whom the child should be friends with, where to go, or what to do. But control is a lack of trust in oneself and in life. The main aspect of a mother’s love for a man is that the woman does not trust him to handle things, that he will do it in the best way.

But a true woman trusts her man! She trusts that he will pick up the child from kindergarten on time, that he will pay the bills on time, that he will buy what is needed at the store, and so on.

3. Categoricity – Flexibility

Mothers love categorical statements. This is the position of “I am always right!” “I know what’s best!”

But a woman’s position is one of flexibility, where she allows the man to have his opinion, even if she disagrees with it. Here she behaves gently, she can hold a pause during which everything may become clear.

4. I-Can-Do-It-All – Delegation

A mother will do everything herself. And a woman in the I-Can-Do-It-All position cannot delegate responsibility; she has to carry everything on her own. She is convinced that she is important, strong, that she can manage by herself…. But this leads to nothing good.

But a true woman knows how to delegate, to pass responsibility to her man. She knows how to ask for help and is not ashamed to appear weak.

5. Pity – Faith in a Man

When a woman loves with maternal love, she looks at a man as if he were a little child. She worries that he won’t cook for himself, that he won’t iron his shirt, won’t take his medicine, and so on. Maternal love is fueled by feelings of pity and distrust towards the man: he won’t cope, won’t take care of himself, he’s not an adult, he’s incapable…

A true woman always believes in her man; she knows he is the best, that he is an adult, that he will take care of himself. And such faith in a man makes him successful in everything.

Every man desires to have a tender, gentle, radiant woman by his side who believes in him. Become that woman, and miracles will not take long to happen.