Stress, fatigue, and lack of novelty can gradually reduce your interest in intimacy. As a result, you and your partner may stop surprising each other, communication will be reduced to solving everyday issues, and sex will become more of an obligation than a way to gain pleasure. Fortunately, this can be avoided by developing certain habits.
Read erotic novels
If you want to loosen up but don’t know how, immerse yourself in the world of sensual literature. Books will help you awaken your imagination, learn about different erogenous zones, and describe your desires in beautiful language. To remember your favorite scenes, write them down in a special diary or bookmark them.
There are quite a few erotic works on the shelves of stores. You can start with the "classics" — "Fifty Shades of Grey" by E.L. James or "Story of O" by Pauline Réage.
Take care of women’s health
Regular check-ups with a gynecologist and endocrinologist are the foundation of a quality intimate life. To avoid problems that may lower libido, regularly get pelvic ultrasounds and hormone tests: progesterone, testosterone, and prolactin.
We recommend paying special attention to microflora. Add fermented dairy products and probiotics to your diet to maintain health. Also, replace synthetic underwear with cotton.
Step outside your comfort zone
Gentle experiments, such as role-playing, sex in an unusual place, and watching erotic films, can help revitalize your relationship. They will also give you and your partner a chance to get to know each other better and become emotionally closer.
The main thing is that the experiments are interesting for both of you and do not cause disgust. To avoid problems, create a green-yellow-red list with your partner in advance. The green zone is what you both like, the yellow is interesting but raises doubts, and the red is off-limits.
Practice mindfulness
Perhaps your sex life has become boring because you started to treat it as something not very important. To change this established opinion and start enjoying intimacy more, you will need to make an effort. This includes mastering special techniques to enhance sensations.
Start with the "4-7-8 Breathing" method. The essence is to inhale for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 7 seconds, and exhale for 8. Also, try the "Body Scan" practice before intimacy. Focus on your sensations, identify areas of tension, and try to mentally release it.
Talk more about sex with your partner
This will help both of you loosen up and understand how to make your sex life brighter. But for the conversations to be helpful, you need to follow a few rules:
- compliment each other;
- speak in the first person ("I have long dreamed of trying...");
- use metaphors.
For inspiration, you might first watch the movie "Stealing Beauty" or "Color of Night."
Train your intimate muscles
You probably know about the benefits of Kegel exercises or have even tried doing them. But if the classics seem boring to you, you can practice yoga — the bridge pose, butterfly pose, and downward-facing dog can help unlock your sexuality.
Equally interesting options are vibrational massage and the use of vaginal balls. Before starting experiments, consult a specialist.
Create an atmosphere
You may underestimate the importance of details: lighting in the bedroom, bed linens, and scents in the house. But all of this plays an important role and can either enhance or diminish sexual desire.
To get properly aroused, dim the lights and turn on pink garlands. You can also light jasmine or vanilla-scented candles. It’s better to replace cotton sheets with silk ones, and basic underwear with a sheer robe.
Explore your body
Until you get to know your body, you won’t be able to explain to a man how to give you maximum pleasure.
Stand completely naked in front of a mirror and examine yourself. Highlight the areas you find most attractive and focus on them. And when you are alone and sufficiently relaxed, experiment with different types of stimulation.
Pamper yourself
It may seem that there is nothing in common between visiting a beauty salon and increasing your level of passion, but that’s not true. As soon as you start taking care of yourself, you will love your body more and stop being ashamed of your sexual fantasies.
To build confidence, visit spa treatments at least a couple of times a month. At home, you can do dry brushing and various skin masks. And don’t forget to occasionally buy beautiful, even if not very practical, lingerie.
Don’t take sex too seriously
If during the process you only think about whether you should enjoy it, nothing will come of it. It’s important that you are relaxed and enjoying the moment, rather than stressing about something going wrong.
Also, try to involve the man in a sort of game. For example, you can parody an erotic scene from your favorite movie or buy a funny sex toy.
