The paradox of happy relationships: when his feelings are stronger, she flourishes. Why this formula works unfailingly — explains the psychologist.
We are used to thinking that ideal relationships are built on a complete balance of feelings: love should be mutual and equal. But in real life, such a balance is not always possible. And it is often women who have to ponder what lies behind the beautiful words about reciprocity.
True intimacy is tested not by romantic gestures, but by how much a partner can be a support in difficult moments, when passion takes a back seat and respect and care come to the forefront.
Psychologist and sexologist Elena Goncharova explained why choosing a man who is more in love with you than you are with him can be the wisest decision.
1. He is a reliable support, not a source of anxiety
A woman is a creature prone to anxiety; why rock the boat even more? When a man is in love, he does not play games, does not make a woman guess why he hasn’t called, and does not flirt with others. Next to him, she feels safe and flourishes in this stability, as her energy is not spent on fighting uncertainty.
2. He invests in the relationship
A man who is more in love is motivated to preserve and enhance the relationship; he does not look for excuses. This makes them strong and durable, creating an atmosphere of trust and reliability where a woman can plan for the future without fear.
3. Absence of "emotional roller coasters"
With him, it is calmer than without him. This is important for mental health, allowing a woman not to exhaust herself in the relationship. Instead of exhausting swings, she gets a steady and predictable union.
4. Preservation of feminine value
A man who is deeply in love tends to emphasize a woman's value through care, help, and attention. This directly impacts her self-esteem positively. She feels unique and desired. Her inner resources are not spent on fighting for recognition but are directed towards development.
5. Reduced risk of infidelity
According to statistics, those who are more in love and invest in the relationship are less likely to take risks and destroy it.
All this minimizes risks for the woman and strengthens her psychological comfort. It is a choice in favor of stability, respect, and growth.
When a woman is more in love, she risks dissolving in her partner, losing her boundaries, and becoming clingy, which is unacceptable for male psychology. If a man loves more, even during periods of sexual boredom in the couple, such a union remains more stable.
And the cherry on top.
A woman in a relationship where the man loves more can afford to be "complicated": imperfect, capricious, tired, ambitious — and all this without the fear that she will be immediately abandoned.
And, of course, when choosing a man, a woman relies on reliability. This is safe for motherhood: a man whose feelings are stronger is more likely to stay nearby and take care of her and the child.
Choosing a man who is more in love is comfort for a woman, an opportunity not to survive in a relationship but to live in stability.
Ideally, feelings should be mutual and equal — this option is less destructive for a woman's psyche and future. But if balance is impossible, it is worth remembering: a union where the man loves just a little more gives a woman confidence, protection, and the freedom to be herself.
In such conditions, she can breathe deeply, knowing that she is loved. Where her feelings are a calm, warm river, and his are a raging sea.
Choosing a partner is always a strategy. And everyone chooses their own.
