Caution! A stunning romance can end before it even begins due to "trivialities" that we consider manifestations of care and love, while men fear them like fire.
Sometimes men disappear from our horizon as if they were never the ones who longed to be with us forever just yesterday. And we are left wondering what actually happened, looking back in confusion… It is quite possible that one or several typical women's mistakes were made, writes woman
Mistake #1 — Competing with a Man
Any man is confident that he deserves to date the best girl. The smartest, the most beautiful, the trendiest, the most domestic, the most sexy — this list can go on indefinitely. Of course, this is true in reality, but with one small "but." The girl should be better than other girls, but not win in comparison with the man himself. So, there is no need to boast about your professional achievements, beat him in chess five times in a row, calculate better, run faster, emphasize how valuable you are, and so on. He won't appreciate it! Instead, tell him how proud you are of his successes and victories. Otherwise, the man may think that he looks pale against your background and that you overshadow him. He might imagine that your leadership qualities will be realized in the family and decide that the fate of a henpecked man does not appeal to him.
Mistake #2 — Assuming Everything is Decided
You can ponder for as long as you want about where you want to spend your honeymoon, what the ring should look like, how many relatives you will invite to the wedding. The only condition is to dream mentally, never out loud! You are sure that everything is decided, but the man needs to have a "backup exit." It is not at all necessary that he will use it. But the fact that there are escape routes warms a man's soul.
Avoid phrases like "this is where the baby crib will fit perfectly" or "let's tear down this wall." Are you ready to shift all your arsenal of cosmetics on the shelf five centimeters to the left to make room for his razor and cologne? Men hate it when someone encroaches on their personal territory, makes decisions for them, and/or forces them to agree. Don't tease the geese — don't let your parents interact with your beloved as if he were a future son-in-law; the situation of "they married me without me" is irritating.
Mistake #3 — Bringing Up the Past
Men dislike being compared to someone else. It is especially painful if you imply that the previous character, if not a deity, is definitely better than your current partner. Bite your tongue if your beloved starts to inquire who brings you more pleasure. Do you think he wants to hear the truth? Not at all! He simply needs praise and confirmation that he is the best lover. For the same reason, never compare his sexual "tactical and technical" parameters with those of your exes.
Don't try to convince a man that all his previous girlfriends were worse than you. It is unlikely that the attempt to elevate yourself at someone else's expense will work. Most likely, your beloved will draw a completely different conclusion about the fact that you consider him a loser, a person who cannot make the right choice.
Mistake #4 — Constantly Asking "Do You Love Me?"
It is clear that we enjoy hearing his assurances over and over again. However, a man may think that a) you have amnesia, b) you doubt his feelings, c) you have nothing else to talk about. Such a question can plant doubts in his soul. Indeed, he might ponder one day, "Do I love her?" The result of his thought process may not please you at all.
Mistake #5 — Putting on a Show
Men do not like being "displayed" to others for the sake of bragging. Who enjoys feeling like a museum exhibit with a sign saying "do not touch"? By nature, men are hunters, not trophies.
Mistake #6 — Planning Ahead
"Today we will go here, tomorrow there, the day after tomorrow to mom's for pancakes" — do you think he likes that you are managing his life, leaving no hint of spontaneity? Not all men enjoy walking on a tightrope and acting like a puppet.
Mistake #7 — Commanding the Parade
Do not try to wean him off bad habits by ordering him. Reshaping an adult is a thankless task. You can spend a lot of effort and achieve nothing but irritation. History does not know the subjunctive mood, but in relationships, it is quite relevant. "I would appreciate it if you stopped" sounds much better than "Stop it!"
Mistake #8 — Controlling Every Step
"Honey, where are you now?", "I called you five minutes ago, why didn't you answer?", "Do you miss me?" — maybe he does miss you, but he is unlikely to be ready to talk about it out loud, especially if he is in a meeting. And if you call five more times — not only will he stop missing you, but he will also start to quietly hate you. And then he will turn off his phone, not wanting to be a dog that you walk on a short phone leash.
Mistake #9 — Demonstrating Selfishness in Stores
"Look at this fur coat (Tiffany ring, Hermes scarf, Chanel bag)! Doesn't it suit me? It seems we are made for each other!" Maybe you are made for each other — but it turns out that at the center of your relationship is only you and the formula from "Capital" — "commodity-money-commodity." Ask yourself, how many times have you said, "Honey, this would suit you"?
Mistake #10 — Saying "We" Too Often
The pronoun "we" is perfect for a mother and a baby who is less than a year old. The umbilical cord has already been cut, but the connection remains because the baby is entirely dependent on the mother. A man, unlike a child, desperately fears losing the most precious thing he has — his independence. Therefore, your remarks like "we decided, right?", "we think that…" can drive him to a white heat.
