Sometimes we all want to flirt a little. But how to do it so that it’s neither awkward nor boring? In this material, we will discuss the most common mistakes women make in sexting and how to avoid them.
Everything Has Its Time
Romantic comedies often depict absurd situations: she sends him a risqué message right during a work call, while he is sitting in a board meeting. The laughter at the heroine is understandable, but in real life, such "adventures" can lead to awkwardness.
The chances of the message being read publicly are low. But if it's sent at the wrong moment, the partner might simply not notice it. Don’t text in the middle of the workday, late at night, or during gaming sessions — the moment may be lost.
"Your Words Are Your Secrets"
It’s best not to descend into outright vulgarity. It’s great if the couple has their own "key words" and jokes about sex that are only understood by the two of them. This makes the messaging intimate and safe.
Don’t Quote Anyone
Speak in your own words. Quotes from Instagram, classic literature, or someone else's sayings do not excite the partner. They want to hear your words and feel your desire. Sending a quote against the backdrop of a sunset picture is the worst option.
Check the Number
It’s very important to ensure that the message is being sent to the right person. A mistake with the number could result in an intimate message being seen by a colleague, an ex-partner, or a relative.
Voice Messages
Most people do not like erotic voice messages. Even if you record something exciting in a sultry voice, the partner may delete it and reply, "I can’t listen right now." The romance disappears.
Control and Security
A phone can be lost, stolen, or hacked. Everything that goes online stays online.
Don’t start erotic messaging while drunk: it can lead to ridiculous situations that will later cause laughter or regret.
Word for Word
Avoid short and fragmented messages. Short lines like:
- "Hi."
- "I’m sitting in the bathroom."
- "Naked."
- "And I’m rubbing myself with a washcloth."
can be irritating and fail to achieve the desired effect.
Give Your Partner a Chance
Don’t turn the messaging into a monologue about masturbation. Even if you write faster, give your partner a chance to react and participate in the dialogue.
Don’t Mix Domestic with Erotic
Erotic messages should not appear in the middle of mundane conversations:
"Vadik, buy bread. By the way, I want you and I’m all hot. And milk."
Set aside time and place for intimate messaging so that the signals are not contradictory.
