Deception in relationships is not the best thing, as you never know how some hidden information will surface. Nevertheless, there are things that are better left unsaid until asked. Not lying to clear oneself or soothe someone else's conscience, but simply saying nothing. In some cases, it's simply out of a sense of tact.
Previous Sexual Experience
In general terms, partners become aware of each other's intimate lives at a certain stage of emotional closeness. However, few would appreciate hearing about the specific positions and places where their significant other had sex with previous partners.
Dislike for a Close Friend or Family Member
In most cases, we want everything to be well among the important people in our lives. We want parents to accept their son-in-law/daughter-in-law and vice versa, and for all friends to get along well when they meet in a group. However, it is possible that a wife, for example, may not like her mother-in-law, but it is unnecessary to express overt dislike.
Doubts About Current Relationship
If a significant problem arises, it certainly needs to be discussed and resolved together. But if it is just an emotional spike or another minor nuance, it should not be aired out. It is quite possible that it will pass by tomorrow.
Dislike for Certain Personality Traits
You can teach a man, for example, to give flowers to a woman on weekends if he is naturally inclined to make pleasant surprises but simply does not know what she wants. However, trying to change a quiet guy into a humorous chatterbox is unnecessary. It is also not advisable to tell him how his reticence annoys you. If the relationship started, it means it was a conscious choice of a person with his characteristics.
Infatuation with His Friends
It does not matter whether this is said in jest or not – the topic of interest in other individuals of the opposite sex in relationships is often taboo. Unless both partners are inclined to support it for mutual pleasure.
Comparison of Intimate Life
Perhaps the previous boyfriend was indeed more enduring or more original in bed, but that is not something the current partner needs to know. Experiencing such a blow to self-esteem is harder than hearing the phrase, "everyone can hammer nails, but you cannot."
Interest in Shopping
If a woman has personal money, the man does not need to know why she spent 50,000 rubles on a handbag when that amount could suffice for a decent washing machine, for example.
Visual Comparison with an Ex
If the previous boyfriend was a mix of Apollo and Brad Pitt, while the current one has, at best, an average appearance, it is not necessary to mention this to him. Even in jest. If the choice fell on him, it means the reason is not in appearance, so there is no need to recall it.
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